I didn’t expect to feel jealous.
She’s a friend. We started together — same market, same apps, same YouTube playlists on 1.5x speed.
We both signed up for Binance in that chaotic bull market moment when everyone thought they’d retire by 30.
And yet, here we are.
She just posted her weekly gains — $1,180. Clean.
Meanwhile, I’m down 43% and terrified to check the charts.
So yeah… I started asking:
What’s she doing that I’m not?
Let’s Back Up: What Is Spot Trading?
In case you're newer:
Spot trading is the most basic kind of crypto trading — buying and selling digital assets like BTC, ETH, SOL, or meme coins at current market prices.
No leverage. No futures.
Just good old-fashioned buy low, sell high (in theory).
Sounds simple. Until it’s not.
What She’s Doing Right (That I Was Ignoring)
After a few awkward coffees and some ego-swallowing honesty, here’s what I learned from watching her:
1. She Doesn’t Trade Every Day — I Do
She waits. I chase.
She only enters 2–3 trades per week max, and only when her setup is clean.
I enter 7 trades in a day because I feel like I “should be doing something.”
Her charts look zen. Mine look like Jackson Pollock got into crypto.
2. She Has a System — I Have Vibes
She showed me her Google Sheet:
It logs entry, exit, risk-reward ratio, why she entered, and how she felt about it.
I have… a vague idea of what I thought the RSI was doing.
She treats it like a business.
I treat it like a roulette table that owes me money.
3. She Learns from Losses — I Rage Quit
Her stop-loss hits? She logs it, reflects, moves on.
My stop-loss hits? I uninstall the app and blame the market manipulation.
The difference isn’t knowledge. It’s discipline and emotional self-control.
She doesn’t take a loss personally. I turn it into a Greek tragedy.
4. She Doesn’t Follow 40 Influencers at Once
I asked where she gets her info. She follows two traders, both low-key, no-lambo, no-BS types.
I follow every moonboy and bearish thread on Twitter and end up in analysis paralysis.
5. She Knows Her Monthly Goal — I Just Want to Get Rich “ASAP”
She’s aiming for 4–6% a week — slow, steady, compounding.
I’m looking for 4x pumps overnight.
And that’s where I got humbled:
She’s winning because she treats spot trading like boring work.
I keep losing because I’m chasing dopamine.
Why It Hurts (and Why That’s Okay)
Crypto is weirdly emotional.
You see other people — friends, strangers, 19-year-olds with Bybit links — showing gains and you wonder:
“Am I just not smart enough for this?”
“Why does everyone else seem to be getting it right?”
Truth is? Most aren’t.
They’re just better at posting than processing.
But when someone you actually know starts winning?
Yeah, that comparison stings deeper.
So What Did I Change?
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I cut back to 2 trades a week
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I log everything — even the dumb ones
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I pick one mentor and one source
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I let go of the fantasy and focused on probabilities
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I stopped trying to impress anyone with charts
I still lose sometimes.
But now I understand why — and that’s a start.
Final Thought
If you're stuck in that spot where her trades are green and yours are bleeding, pause. Zoom out.
She’s not magic.
She just got consistent, slow, and focused before I did.
And that’s not something to envy — that’s something to learn from.
Because maybe the problem isn’t that crypto is broken.
Maybe the problem is that we expect magic from a system that rewards boring.
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